A chart from my pragmatics textbook, in a chapter on politeness.
He admits himself that he can see the attraction of Darcy. ‘Yes, he’s terribly attractive. But I can’t see myself as a sex symbol in that role. Not at all! Like, the actor in me would always like to be more dashing, or slimmer, or have nicer hair. You know what I mean? I see pictures of Colin Firth and think, “That’s Darcy.” I see my big face and my funny hair and I think, “Pudding head!”